Eight years. It's been eight years. She's confined inside the walls she's
built herself. The storm she escaped changed her. Unsure if all men are the
same. Will they all eventually fall into the same pattern? She still flinches
and gets scared when a man yells. Instant flashbacks she can't seem to escape.
The storm inside her replays more than it should. She still dreams about it, she
still fears it. She takes pills and it doesn't even clear it. The shrink she
sees once a week doesn't help either. It actually only makes it worse. She
doesn't want to talk about it and she doesn't want to relive it.
Eight years. I.... Am still haunted by this. It is getting better. Slowly getting
better. The women I once was is starting to shine through again. The scars I
have on my body will always be there. They are all a daily reminder. Most are
hidden under the many tattoos on my body. No one knows they're there. But I know
they are. Nearly two years inside the storm I have learned a few things. One,
not everyone is capable of change. Two, when you're home alone screaming at the
top of your lungs really does help. Three, the storm does not like it when you
fight back. Four, I learned how strong I actually am. Five, sometimes it's
better to not forgive. Cut all ties and just get out any way you can.
No one will ever know all that I have been through. What it did to me mentally,
and even physically. For example. I am 5'0" and 115 pounds. At one point I was
92 pounds. Mentally. I can't seem to fall in love again. I have been single for
almost four years. My wall is the reason. It scares me to take a wrecking ball
to it. When a man seems to chip at it just a little bit I leave. I patch it back
and sit alone. Inside my walls.
Scream.... Why do I do this? Build my wall thicker and taller? Trust. I don't
trust many people anymore. A very small handful of people have my trust. They
know everything. Every single detail, of every single day. I will only trust
people once. Don't mistake my kindness for weakness. Don't ever underestimate
me. I have been through a lot. Things that would make people crumble and fall.
Truth is, I am slowly taking down my wall. The bricks are heavy, so it'll take
some time. It still goes right back up quick if I need it to. Sometimes.... I
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